Men and Dependability

First and foremost, I love men. I have 3 important men in my life. My husband, my son and my dog. Men are great. Most of the time. There comes a time though, when things need to get done, and not a man in sight. Interestingly enough, even my 16 month old son and my 2 year old pit-mix disappear when the to-do list appears. Coincidence? I think not!

Now, I am not one to nag or pester about doing things. Rather I'm the one who if I'm the only one working, everyone else in the house knows that I'm working. Doors are closing louder, pots and pans are banging around. I tend to get a little OCD when I'm mad and inevitably the entire house is clean by the time I've decided to not be mad anymore.

All of this being said, there are only few things I want from a man: consistency, dependability and for God's sake pick up your own socks! :) Not a long list. Not even a tough list in my opinion.

Being a dependable, strong man are highest on my list because as a woman I feel that's what is needed first in a man. As a collective whole, I believe women want to know what to expect from the men in their life, they want to know when he says "yeah I'll change the oil", or "yeah I'll pick up the dog crap in the backyard", their engine isn't going to blow and they aren't going to be stepping in dog feces because he didn't do it when he said he would. It all comes down to follow through, and do it on a regular basis.

Men: We want to believe that we can depend on you. Not just to do the things we ask you to, but to do the things we don't ask. If you see that something needs to be done, and we're busy, step in and help without being asked! Major brownie points, FYI. We want to depend on you, your strength and wisdom. We want to know that when we do ask you to do something, or you say you're going to do something, that it is going to be done in a timely manner. It doesn't always have to be done right away. But a week later? Too late, and I am now doing it myself, and am mad. Chances are dinner will not be cooked, and don't even think about anything happening in the bedroom tonight!

To me, when follow through is lacking, you are telling me "you aren't important enough for me to do what I am saying I am going to do". Maybe you just forgot, maybe you were really going to do it later. But guys, seriously, dishes in the sink 2 days after you say you're going to do them isn't either excuse at that point :). Guys,we want YOU to be our go-to friend. Our fix-it man. We don't want to go to friends and family to get things done. We chose you, and we need you to be consistent and dependable. The need isn't just because we want it done, the need is because every time you follow through you are being a man of your word, and best of all you are being an honorable man. Do what you say you're going to do when you say you are going to do it! And if you need perks, you get dinner cooked and something may be happening between the sheets tonight!